tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6105634313164805461.post9006117993212941053..comments2023-09-24T03:50:57.097-07:00Comments on Scarred-Seeker: Crazy MakersUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6105634313164805461.post-45888406536672938842011-04-22T10:13:33.116-07:002011-04-22T10:13:33.116-07:00Thanks for commenting Susan, and for stopping by. ...Thanks for commenting Susan, and for stopping by. They are indeed on their own journey, and staying out of their way is most often not only safe but wise for us.Mystic_Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00099062213372011260noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6105634313164805461.post-5602991837379749732011-04-22T07:22:28.619-07:002011-04-22T07:22:28.619-07:00If there was a "like" button I'd use...If there was a "like" button I'd use it here! You have some great insights on the crazymakers in the world. I've learned to acknowledge that these folks are still on their own journey and that its ok to simply say "thank you for your comment" and walk away. To try to engage in or argue with these folks is me participating in crazy making. And like you said - these folks will often use our arguments against us at some point.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14912871715015255464noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6105634313164805461.post-44665001263540991202011-04-22T05:59:16.569-07:002011-04-22T05:59:16.569-07:00Carla - I too find it very hard to be vulnerable a...Carla - I too find it very hard to be vulnerable around the majority of people. It is very hard to feel open except with other survivors but to be able to feel and be open at all is a first in my life these past few months. It is amazing to be able to share and be empowered, rather than having your own truths used to harm you. I don't know the solution, but a big part is knowing them for what they are and doing what we can to stop them. Together our voices make us stronger and I believe in that strength we can take their power away.<br /><br />Patricia - thank you for coming by. I admire you and aspire to have your strength one day! Your message of truth in our healing and grace in dealing with others shows a special leadership for those who are healing. <br /><br />Thank you both for sharing!Mystic_Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00099062213372011260noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6105634313164805461.post-2699269955952184422011-04-21T10:57:21.036-07:002011-04-21T10:57:21.036-07:00I, too, have gone out of my way to avoid these cra...I, too, have gone out of my way to avoid these crazy makers but it isn't always possible. Sometimes because of my religious/spiritual beliefs, they show up on my blog with comments trying to convince me that their way is the only way to God/Heaven. I don't have a conversation with them. I usually post their comment, as long as they are respectful to me and everyone who reads my blog. My usual reply back to them is "Thank you for sharing that." They are allowed to have their opinions and so am I. <br /><br />If the conversation is on a physical level instead of online, I say that "Thank you for sharing that." and then walk away. I refuse to have a conversation with people like you describe above when their only intent is to make themselves right and me wrong. If they are willing to compromise and agree to disagree then I might stay and explore their thoughts and mine on the topic. If there is no bend in them, then I don't waste my time or theirs. I won't let anyone make me feel "crazy" because I am different or because I was abused and they can't acknowledge or deal with my abuse. <br /><br />As for telling me to "hush" because I believe different from them whether it is about abuse, spirituality, what normal is, or any other topic - no one has the right to make me feel crazy or to doubt what my truth is about the incest or any other subjects in my life. They aren't me. They don't know what my experiences have been or how they have affected me. They aren't on my journey. They are on their own journey through life and so they can't tell me to "hush" about my own memories and about my own journey. That is abuse and I refuse to be abused again. I will walk away rather than be abused again.Patricia Singletonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14114250171020836470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6105634313164805461.post-40036760364610406162011-04-21T02:49:50.849-07:002011-04-21T02:49:50.849-07:00Mystic Mom, I have to say that I have pretty much ...Mystic Mom, I have to say that I have pretty much gone out of my way to avoid people of any kind who 'might' do this to me. Which means I don't share very much of anything with anyone, except those right here in our survivors community. I still have my walls up to those on the outside of 'us'. I feel way too vulnerable and feel as though I wouldn't be able to keep my wits about me if I had to endure that kind of 'secondary' abuse.<br /><br />Not sure what the solution is, because I know that MY way is not totally empowering, just as having to put up with the 'crazy makers' isn't empowering either. Are we destined to only feel safe among each other? And even then, there are some among 'us' who can do these things as well. There is always a measure of vulnerability.<br /><br />I'm glad for you that you recognize who these people are in your life and are willing to put a stop to their abuse of you! That shows great strength on your part! Stay with that!<br /><br />Hugs,<br />CarlaJourney of a Genie in a Bottlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14104548700614873783noreply@blogger.com